My mom is my best friend in life. She has always been my #1 cheerleader for EVERYTHING and I wouldn't know what to do without her. Before she went into surgery she made my sister and I promise to not EVER forget we are best friends and please promise her to NEVER stop talking to one another no matter what fight we have.
Myself, Mom & Sister at my baby shower
We.never.will. She doesn't need to tell us that - but I know how terrifying anesthesia is. I hope that I can help her as much this time as I did last time she had this done! Now that I have a toddler, it's going to be a bit harder to be at the hospital and nursing facility as often, but I know how strong she is and she is going to be back to 100% in no time!!!!
I am SO glad she decided to do this. For Noelani's 3rd birthday we want to do something VERY special - and it will require her to do alot of walking around amusement parks - so I am VERY glad to be able to look forward to this with her!
Don't ever underestimate your friendships you should have with your family! If there is a problem you are having as a family, try your best to work it out. You don't ever want to think someday "what if I would have just apologized this one last time or told this person how much I loved them?". Don't ever let stupid little spats and disagreements make you live with regrets.
ALWAYS tell people you love how you feel. There is not a single day that goes by that when I drop Noelani off at daycare that I don't say "I.LOVE.YOU"....You never know if you will get a chance to say it again.
You are very lucky. I have not had contact with my 'mother' since 2005. She never even acknowledged that I have children. She doesnt even talk with or visit my grandmother any more because of the pictures of our family all over my grandmothers house. She is sad and lame. Thank God for in laws. You my friend are very lucky. Im jealous.
ReplyDeleteYes, I do feel very blessed and lucky. It is sad - but your "mother" is the one missing out. Filling her life with hate will only hurt her in the long run!!!!!
ReplyDeleteAntoine has ALOT of family issues and his "father" hasn't had contact with him either in regards to Noey.
You and I know best, as moms of adopted children - blood does NOT make a family. We just have to cherish the ones we love, no matter HOW we know them xoxo
Omg, I had tears sreaming down my face as I read this.
ReplyDeleteThere are no words to desbribe how important family is! I had 2 sisters, 5 & 7 years older than myself and our mother died when we were 13, 18, & 20. Because my sisters were only a cpl years apart, they were very close & I was the pain in the butt little sister. After our mom passed there were many years of family problems and I always knew that I could count on my sisters for ANYTHING. One of my biggest fears is that someday when I am gone, my children will stop speaking to each other, it is extremely important to me that we realize that no one is perfect and problems can always be worked out! I love you both so very much and want to make sure you remember you are your very own best friends and no one in this world has had the same life experiences that the two of you share. Thank you, Jenn for putting my mind at ease knowing that this has "sunk in" after all my years of preaching! <3 MOM