The thing we were missing, is the same another needs....

THIS.IS.WHY.INFERTILITY.HURTS

You never know if you will get a chance to see this. When I say this I mean, the bond of a family. YES, I have my family now - but I will never forget those who don't.

I am sharing this couple with everyone, from a blog my friend Michelle wrote about. Like Tammy & Mark <---(read here), we struggled with infertility. It hurts. Nope, there isn't any other word to explain it besides hurt. You have to face it every single place you turn. I have run into Tammy & Marks blog every now and then while hunting the internet for stories of infertility and treatments. Somehow, in the infertility world, you unfortunately, have an instant bond.

As many may or may not know, adoption is expensive. 

Let's begin to discuss the cost of infertility treatments. (Here is the description from about.com: "The average IVF cost is $12,000, but it can be as much as $15,000. It may be as low as $10,000, but it’s rarely lower than that. These prices are for one cycle of IVF"). WE tried one round of IVF (aka in vitro fertilization). This does not include any other costs for insemination, which I cannot even count how many times we tried that. It also does not include any medication, testing, or surgery costs I had along the years of our treatments (3+). In addition, it does not include the heartbreak! Knowing that I think my body wasn't strong enough to carry my two babies during the IVF, killed me inside.

But alas, as everyone tells you as an infertile person, "there is always adoption". YES I know there is. EVERY infertile person knows this is an option. BUT, how do you afford it???? According to theadoptionguide.com: "The average cost of adoption, as reported in the latest Adoptive Families adoption cost survey (2009-2010), was around $30,000 (before the federal tax credit and employee adoption benefits)."

Did your jaw just drop? I know mine did when I first really looked into adoption. How would I ever become a mom? 

Low and behold, you never know who is out there ready and willing to help. I will not discuss details on my blog of how we afforded our adoption, because I feel it is private...BUT I will say, I feel every woman with the desire in their heart to be a Mama, should have that fulfilled. It sounds cliche but I really believe that those of us who can't "carry" a baby, are put here on earth to mother those babies that God chooses specifically for us.

 How cool is that?!?!?! God decided to choose me for my baby & my baby for me!!!!!

With that being said, no matter how lucky I am, I will never ever forget those feelings of struggle. NEVER. I will always do everything I can to help another woman become a Mama.

Tammy & Mark are trying to fund raise in order to bring their baby home. After years of struggling to conceive, they are moving on to adoption. They are having their profiles shown to expectant birth moms and waiting to be matched. In the meantime, I am helping spread their story - PLEASE check out their fund raising website and help them out: Wondra Peanut Fund.